When we praise others, we are, in fact, 'beautifying' ourselves.”
We must not easily feel aggrieved or irritated. Instead, we should speak more words of gratitude and appreciation. When we praise others, we are, in fact, "beautifying" ourselves. Hence, we should "beautify" ourselves more often, and not get into dispute with others and let our hearts be troubled over petty matters.
Take myself as an example. I find it hard to recount unhappy memories from the past, because I will forget them very quickly. What is the use of keeping conflicts and disputes in our hearts? (Our mind is) like a computer; it will hang if you store too many files in it.
Conflicts and disputes are like the unnecessary junk files in a computer; we should delete them quickly. Otherwise, we may start “marking” others and remember the wrongs they had done to us. If we keep remembering the flaws of others, how are we able to forgive them?
Do no punish ourselves with the mistakes of others.”
Sometimes, an unintentional remark from someone would make you feel like you have been stabbed in the heart. But that person may not even know that you have been hurt by what he said. Therefore, we should not punish ourselves with the mistakes of others. By having a broad mind and big heart, we will be able to live happily, and also help others to live a carefree life.
Source: Tzu Chi Taiwan website
Extracted from “Xin Ling Zhi Chuang”：《心灵之窗》
Translated by the Tzu Chi Singapore translation team