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Building Trust

If a person is untrustworthy, it would be difficult for others to take his words to heart no matter how good they sound…… So how do we make others trust us? We can do that by humbling our ego and broadening our heart.


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Trust is one of the most important things in life. If we cannot earn the trust of others, our lives would be incomplete and flawed. Hence, to embark on a broad, great path in life, we must first establish a trustworthy character.

To earn the trust of others, we must first trust people. But how can we gain the trust of others if we are suspicious towards them? So, we must cultivate a sense of trust and confidence in each other. A verse in the sutras says, "Faith is the source of all virtues and merits. It nurtures all the roots of goodness."

All merits and virtues start with faith. (With a sense of faith, we will be able to make an effort to do good. With every effort we make, we gain a merit and virtue).

"Merit" is about the inner cultivation of humility while "virtue" is about the outward practice of graciousness. To attain such a level of cultivation, we must work on ourselves.

If a person is untrustworthy, it would be difficult for others to take his words to heart no matter how good they sound. In order to gain the trust of others, we must first establish our trustworthiness.

How can we make others trust us? We can do this by humbling our ego and broadening our heart—by shrinking our ego till we can put ourselves in the eyes of others without hurting their eyes at all and can even get into their hearts and earn their trust.

We must first establish faith in ourselves, and then trust in others. If we can do this, our world will be a harmonious and peaceful place where people are gracious towards each other, without any battles or conflicts.

Extracted from “Huan Xi Zi Zai”《欢喜自在》
Translated by the Tzu Chi Singapore translation team