A student asked Master Cheng Yen, “If our parents’ wish is in conflict with our own ambitions, should we obey our parents, or should we stick to our own ideals? How do we be filial to our parents after we have gotten married and moved out?”
The Master answers:
You should first understand the feelings of your parents and listen to your parents’ suggestions calmly. Communicate peacefully with your parents and express your thoughts candidly. Do not oppose for the sake of opposing. Many young people think that they can do whatever they want as long as it makes them happy. One should not have such mindset, otherwise, they would most likely end up harming themselves and hurting others.
Moving out and having our own life does not stop us from being filial to our parents. Should there be such affinity, it is best to be able to let our parents move in with us so that we could do our part as children. We can also set an example for our children.